Dads can have “empty nests,” too.

With another son graduating from high school last week (that’s my third son, one more high school graduation to go), I’m starting to think more about how my life will change when I’m finally living in an “empty nest.”   So, the title of an article on the cnn.com website caught my eye this morning:  “Sex and other perks of empty nesting”

If you read the article (which was originally published in O, The Oprah Magazine), you’ll see that the editor’s highlighting of  “sex” in the title is slightly gratuitous.  But, hey, it got me to read the article.

The article focuses primarily on the experience of mothers.  (Perhaps that’s because Oprah’s audience and market is predominantly female.)  However, I was intrigued to see a recognition that fathers can also experience “empty nest syndrome.”  I’m not surprised that a research study from Wheaton College found that men are usually less emotionally prepared for this transition and more prone to regrets over lost opportunities.  (Of course, it’s probably the case that we men are usually less emotionally prepared for just about any major life transition.)

My first glimpse into the “empty nest” transition process happened seven years ago when my oldest son went away to college.   My essay on that occasion, “Suddenly, It’s Time To Say Goodbye,” still rings true for me.

I’d write more about graduations and empty nests, but I don’t really have time to examine my feelings right now.  I have to get ready for a college graduation in three days (that’s my second son).   It’s a busy and happy month for my family…

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  1. So, the title of an article on the cnn.com website caught my eye this morning: “Sex and other perks of empty nesting”

    See, that right there nearly made me squinch my eyes shut in defense 🙂 But I kept on reading and you didn’t squick me out or anything, so we’re cool.

  2. I’ve not had so many fledglings as you have, but I know the feelings. We took up Contra Dancing as Lynn was starting her last year of high school in 2000, and it was a great move. Gave us a great active, social hobby and brought us into a wonderful circle of friends.

    Happy celebrations! And is your 18-year-old off to college? Hope all is well! Let’s have coffee soon. Jane

  3. @Rebecca:

    So, the title of an article on the cnn.com website caught my eye this morning: “Sex and other perks of empty nesting”

    See, that right there nearly made me squinch my eyes shut in defense 🙂 But I kept on reading and you didn’t squick me out or anything, so we’re cool.

    Yeah, that actually made me originally not read this post for a while.


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